All people want support, especially during difficult times, for example, after an argument with a loved one. At such moments, you want warmth, support and pleasant words. Therefore, we often go to friends, comrades, parents and talk about what happened in detail. Psychologists say that this can turn against us, so you need to keep all the details of the quarrels in yourself.
Yes, of course, to see all people as enemies is wrong and stupid. But no one is talking about the enemy side. After all, even excessive concern of relatives can become a negative moment in relation to quarreling partners. And one more thing, we all know that how many people, so many opinions. Therefore, telling someone about the situation that happened, we automatically subscribe ourselves to criticism, because we may not agree with our point of view. For example, to call your partner and support his position, which will only reduce the likelihood of a calm reconciliation.
The same goes for parents. What do loving parents want? Of course, so that the children make up at any cost. Even if the conflicts remain unresolved, let all the insults lurk in the soul – if only there were no quarrels. Therefore, they will strive with all their hearts to utilize the quarrel. But the problem will not disappear because the spouses will defiantly make up and kiss each other.
Therefore, it is important to be silent, not to show your appearance at work, when visiting friends and parents that something is wrong in the family. If you need help, you should go to a specialist who will work through a specific situation and sort out the conflict.